Sharing a house with a group of people can be amazing fun. Constant company, instant fun and many memories. But there can be a downside to sharing your space with friends and in some cases, strangers.
Uni days are different. Living with strangers, being a bit messy and throwing a party here and there were the ‘done’ thing. It’s expected even but things change when you’re a young professional. You have responsibilities now and dare we say it? Early nights.
We’re going to navigate you through how to make living with others.
How to be the perfect housemate…
Get clued up
There’s a chance that you’re the new kid on the block. If you already know someone who lives in the house, ask a couple of non-invasive questions and get a little bit clued up on the people you don’t know, before you move in. Don’t go full stalker-mode but do consider sending a friend request or following them on Twitter.
We’ve all met the person who draws a line to monitor how much of their soy milk has been used and leaves passive aggressive Post-it notes about the washing up. Don’t be that housemate. It’s the quickest way to isolate yourself and spoil what could be a lovely friendship. If people do label their belongings, by all means, do the same. Choosing to live with others does require a little sharing, though.
Find out how things are done
Is there a rota for the washing up? Do you all have a movie night once a month? Whether it’s the fun stuff or the mundane tasks, there’s more than likely a particular way the group do things. Does someone cook for the whole house once a week? Join in!
Wow your housemates with your culinary skills and you’ll have made new friends in no time.
Resolve conflict quickly
The tricky one. Nobody likes a fall-out. If there is an argument, get it sorted ASAP! The last thing you want is an elephant in the room. It may mean apologising for something that wasn’t your fault. Don’t make everyone else feel awkward and if someone steps on your toes, it more than likely wasn’t deliberate.
Give them their space
Living with people you’re already friends with can be super exciting but don’t get carried away. Everyone likes a bit of time to themselves. Simple stuff like knocking before you enter their room will make sure you don’t feel like you’re living on top of each other.
Establish a routine
Communicate with your housemates about when they should expect to see you around. If you work very late or stay elsewhere at the weekends, let them know or they may think you’ve gone missing! Maybe you’re an early bird and nobody else is? Don’t get up at 5.30am and then start the vacuuming - that’s the fastest way to lose friends!
Do your bit
Speaking of the vacuuming, nobody likes to live in squalor. You won’t get every speck of dust every single time but do your part. Establish a rota between you all. Claiming that it’s not your problem just isn’t going to fly, when you’re with other people. Staying on top of things keeps everyone happy.
Sort out money matters
The second least fun part about being a responsible adult, after the cleaning, is of course paying the bills. There are obvious things that will be split evenly, like the rent but what about the landline, cable TV? Not everyone uses all of those services, so get a move on.
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